It’s exciting to get engaged. The congratulations will be raining down on you. All of your friends will be excited and happy for you. Then, there are questions from both sides of the family. You’re going to get battered with questions about where you plan to get married, whether you plan to get married in a church, what you plan to wear, and what color you plan to have as your theme.
Weddings are stressful and only stressful generally because of the pressure other people put on the bride and groom. When it comes to looking for wedding venues, you should be feeling excited, relaxed and calm about this new step you’re going to take. Many people end up eloping and finding wedding venues abroad because they don’t want to have to deal with all of the questions and all of the pressure from their family and friends. It’s unfortunate that weddings often get given a bad rap because people are asked so many questions and are given so many opinions that they just want to run away from the planning.
With that in mind, here are some reasons weddings can be very stressful to plan.
- The cost. Money is a very sensitive topic, and we’re experiencing a cost-of-living crisis. It’s natural that when you’re planning your wedding, you want to negotiate your finances, your fiancé, your family, and your vendors, and the anxiety that comes with it can run high. Money can stress you out, but who says you need to have a ridiculously expensive wedding? You could have a DIY wedding on a budget if you want to, and to hell with anybody’s opinion who says that you can’t.
- Hiring vendors. Weddings used to involve going to a church to exchange vows and then having a buffet or a party afterwards. Now, you have to consider vendors such as table dresses, masters of ceremony, wedding planners, DJs, caterers, florists, and the list goes on and on. Weddings can be very expensive, and it’s generally because the costs are overinflated by vendors.
- People’s opinions. One of the top reasons for weddings feeling so stressful is because of the views of everybody around you. Managing people on and before a wedding is stressful and you have to remember this is about your marriage to come, not about the people’s experience of your wedding. It’s very nice to lay on a whole event for other people. It’s very nice to put music on that they’ll enjoy and serve drinks they’ll enjoy. But most couples will say that their parents and their friends are some of the most stressful culprits of weddings.
- The guest list. The stress that comes with writing a guest list is huge. Not only will you be pressured into inviting your parents, friends and family members that you’ve never met, but there will also be an expectation on you as to who you should invite from your social circles. We reckon that the best thing you could do is ditch everybody and go and elope, because that’s the only way you’ll get rid of guest list stress.
